ENABLING, DEPENDENCY, BOUNDARIES, ADDICTIONS...
ALL WRAPPED UP TOGETHER AT THE CORE OF LIFE
READING LIST, CONTENTS, LINKS


(Currently in process, but published for a particular person to use the pieces that are already here.

THESE ARE CORE, VITAL UNDERSTANDINGS FOR A GOOD LIFE

Unravel all of these life destroyers to get them out of your life and reinsert your happiness and well-being.  Read the core pieces, understand how they all fit together, implement them into your life wisdom and behaviors, and pick whatever other pieces you are interested in. 

Note that "addictions" is not just to substances but to behavioral addictions that can destroy lives.  They are "the same"!

This is a key point at which relationships and behaviors and happiness all intersect...

THE CORE READING LIST

The Overview Piece On How All Of These Fit Together - I wrote this to achieve a quick perspective on how this works, ties together, and suggestions on how to unravel this. (not written yet)

Our "Addictions" That Cause Our Behaviors (to be written)


Where We Intersect (to be written)

But I'm This Way Because... - Instead, you have all the basic equipment to be able to learn and build all the rest.. (not written yet)

Victimhood - A Role We Don't See Ourselves Taking On - But A Prime Cause For Unhappiness! - Dependence, the need for approval, lack of boundaries all tend to indicate a person who is operating in life as a victim to a large degree. Link from there to "Where Are You On The Victim Vs. Cause Scale.

Intermittent Reinforcement - And Why A Person Will Do Something Against His Long Term Interests

Dependence, Independence, And Interdependence - What Works And What Doesn't - Read this to gain a broader perspective and some distinctions.

BOUNDARIES

One of the most important necessities for a good life!

Setting Effective Boundaries - Freeing Oneself

Healthy Boundaries - Where Do I End And You Begin? 

RECOMMENDED BOOK

The Enabler:  When Helping Hurts The Ones You Love - Angelyn Miller 



CODEPENDENCY AND ENABLING -
CHOKERS AND DISABLERS



Link from this:  See the Codependency And Enabling box in Children And Parenting Contents, Links and link to these:

Do I Have Some Patterns Or Characteristics Of CoDependence? And What Do I Want To Do About This? 

Read all of the others in that box, also!


ADDICTION - THE DRIVER OF BEHAVIOR

Addictions Of All Types - Their Basis, Their Effects, And The Solutions - Link to the related pieces

Linked from the above piece:

Addictions - Harmless Weaknesses? - The benefits of addiction, the costs of addiction.  How to change addictions.  Even little addictions can create negative momentum in life.

Deeper:

Living Life As A Rat Pressing The Dopamine Lever - Wasting Our Lives - A Huge Pity



RELATED

Family, Children - Resources And Insights - Links to articles and pieces to read and understand.


Link to:

Beliefs:

Dependency-Based Beliefs

I am powerless and dependent

Roles:

Victim/Child Vs. 100% Responsibility - The Indicators That Provide The Clarity To Choose - Which do you choose?

Actual capabilities:

Am I Capable Of Making My Life Excellent?  Can I Have Confidence In Reaching That Higher Level? - Any non-permanently handicapped person can use the basic human equipment to build anything of life that he/she wants.