HOW TO TALK TO YOURSELF
AND HOW NOT TO TALK TO YOURSELF
In process, for some additions and examples. Meanwhile utilize the key points in your life!
THE SUPER-RULE: (one that you MUST follow and keep "top of the mind", repeat until learned)
NEVER LEAVE A NEGATIVE CONVERSATION GO UNREPLACED.
OR UNSTOPPED OR AT LEAST INTERRUPTED.
Memorize this, swear to use this as a cardinal rule of life, and apply it all day, every day!!!!!
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Slam that door shut and don't let that stuff in any more. Don't allow it into your internal household. And clean it up immediately when it slips in.
elephant, dog, monkey child (an apt metaphor for the simple primitive mind, not yet having reasoning and judgment, nor full power) his metaphorical being inside ourselves is like the child one the best as it is closer to what is true). But I think that the most appropriate metaphor that mirrors reality is that we are dealing with Lennie, the "limited functioning" brother of George in Mice And Men. It is essential that we treat him in the was that will work for his limited understanding and reasoning ability - but, of course, love him deeply, as we would love that part of ourselves. With love, kindness, firmness, boundaries. Learn the 'Tricks" that work... use them... Of course, you'll not always win and you'll have some control problems because we do not know exactly how he/she is thinking. (A female primitive mind might be called "Lena".)
See my irs conversation
Would you talk to a friend or a child like that??
You also talk to yourself nonverbally... if you get the 'anxiety' "conversation" correct it immediately, don't let it persist and groove itself in further, get to deleting it. Guard you psyche as if it is your very life, for it is your very life, it is the essence, the experience of life. Never dismiss it as "well that's normal" or....
